Do Not Fake Affection

Our Desiderata Series continues with today’s guest post by Adebola Oni.  His blogs are linked at the bottom of the post and I highly recommend them!

 

Especially do not feign affection.

No Pretense!

I have always being an apostle of love. Anytime I have the opportunity of sharing with someone, I have always told them to love what they are doing, where they are and who they are with. The golden rule I follow is this, if you don’t like what you are doing, where you are and who you are with, then CHANGE.

Frustration is bound to be the lot of a man/woman that pretends to love everything when the opposite is the case. When you truly love everything around you, it will show in your attitude and your daily living.

So many people are living an unexciting life all because pretense is what dominates their lives. They have been forced to accept things they do not like all because of what they stand to gain or because they just want to please someone. You find these people irritable all the time and hard to stay with, without enjoying their company. They always have something to complain about.

If you have to love anything or anyone, do it with ALL your heart. There is nothing like half-hearted love. It is either you wholly love it or you don’t. When you love your job or your dream, you will be willing to go all the way for it but if you don’t, you will be reluctant to attempt some unpleasant things for the sake of the job. The same applies to the love of people.

A man or a woman can go to any length to satisfy someone he/she loves. We have heard or even see people do some wonderful things all in the name of love. People even go through a lot of dangers all in the name of love. What makes people put their lives on the line if not love?

People follow their dreams because they have fallen in love with it. As a young man, I fell in love with the dream of being an entrepreneur. I was discouraged by so many people against following this path but I just couldn’t listen to them because of my passion for the dream. I could easily have been dissuaded if it is a faked affection.

A young fellow that is persuaded to abandon his dream and does so, is not completely in love with this dream. Married couples that sue for divorce all because of indifferences are not madly in love with each other. Nothing can separate people that are totally in love with each other, absolutely NOTHING!

Are you in love with what you are doing, where you are and who you are with? Be true to yourself in answering this question and if you are not, no need to pretend about it. If you don’t love things around you, then look for ways to CHANGE today. Your future depends on the decision to stop pretending about things you don’t like.

Life is so much fun and it is not meant to be lived in drudgery.

Adebola Oni

Adebola Oni is the Author of The Lessons of Life, a life-transforming book that has helped a lot of people discover their purpose in life. You can read more of his transformational articles on his Motivational Blog at: http://www.the-lessons-of-life.com/Motivational-Blog and also get a FREE copy of the book at: http://www.the-lessons-of-life.com/

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